Welcome! Crossing the threshold from maiden to mother is a massive undertaking that not only needs to be recognized and ceremonially honored, but deeply necessitates a healing touch that can welcome the new mama with open arms. As a postpartum receiver, you are charged with holding space for women on the other side of birth, you are reminded of being reverent with your service to her, and you are blessed to be her witness as she starts feeding her baby milk, heals her body and begins to seal the rawness of her birth experience. You are there to wrap her in a blanket of your loving care, warm her insides, massage her, create herbal tinctures for her, feed her warm soups and truly gift her with ceremony.
Mother Roasters are CAREGIVERS that nurture new mothers after BIRTH while supporting their RECOVERY + JOURNEY into motherhood. As EVERY women deserves to be welcomed into MOTHERHOOD through GENTLE + LOVING + CARE, this will be your charge, to be of service to her through this sacred rite of passage.
Welcome, Anni Daulter & Valerie Wiesner
i bow in reverence to you
The Art of Sacred Postpartum Defined
The definition of Postpartum Care is helping a woman regain both physical and emotional balance as she re- adjusts her post-birth body to a non-pregnant state of being. The Art of truly caring for a postpartum mother lives in the delivery of the service. It's a delicate touch, a soft voice, a healing hand and a listening ear, and its the way the brush strokes of each of these, paints a picture for the new mama after she has crossed the threshold from maiden to mother. This is a spiritual time that deserves reverence, humility, expert care and warmth that then enables the postpartum mama to truly heal and seal the birth process. The Art of Postpartum Care is more than a career choice, it’s a SACRED VOW to women to hold their hand through the quiet days of becoming a mother and to create this special time in her HONOR. Becoming a Mother Roaster is a PRIVILEGE and you are blessed to hold space for a mama as she closes the birth journey. Please remember that reverence and know that you are the postpartum artist, painting a picture of transition for a woman that is so beautiful, warming, nurturing and loving, that she will want to gaze at your work in wonderment. If you get it right. So let’s do that... let’s get it right!
WELCOME to The Art of Sacred Postpartum.
understanding reverence *Now We Bow *Building Sacred Space *Understanding Sealing Stories *Art Project : Sealing Stories Book
Bowing in reverence to the work that you do, to serve women, is done in GRATITUDE and humility, for the complete HONOR it is, to witness her in one of the most vulnerable times in her life. This is the Beauty Way...You must find ways to leave your beauty way with her long after you have gone. You must deeply understand your willingness to SERVE in this way, before you can truly hold your hand out to a new mother.
Activity: Now We Bow Find a comfortable spot, kneel down and bow, while listening to Nina Lee's beautifully inspirational song, "BOW NOW" as you contemplate what your VOW to serve women will be. After the bowing, CLAIM YOUR VOW by both stating it to the universe and painting your vow to share with us.
Create your VOW PAINTING!
A Mother's Birthing Journal by Tnah Louise
How does a woman process her birth journey? There are many ways, but telling her BIRTH STORY is the first critical processing that kicks starts her transition into motherhood.
SHE NEEDS TO BE HEARD! THEN HONORED!
For a new mama to take the time for deep reflection, to look within, find her HEART song, sing it to the world and her babe, and scribe it...gives her the POWER to process it! These actions allow her freedom to work out the kinks of what she liked and what she didn't like. It opens her to reflection and thus HEALING. Journaling will increase your mama's conscious AWARENESS and will help her contact her spiritual guidance and higher self. Why journal? Journaling brings clarity and tenderness as you witness yourself. New mamas can easily begin down a path of having a running stream of inner thoughts that tell them they are not doing it right, or they are not as good as other mothers. Putting a pen to paper can calm negative chatter by allowing an affirming place to grow that will help uplift instead of tear down. As a MOTHER ROASTER, you want to allow sacred space for your mamas to begin this journey. You can choose to create a journal for each of the postpartum mamas you serve as a GIFT or as a Menu Service, but give it to them with the stated intention that you want them to: *claim their birth story by writing it down in the journal *
When she is ready she will share the birth story with you or someone else who will do NOTHING but listen intently to every single word. Writing about your birth experience and the legacy of your child's life, is an act of cherishing what is closest to your heart. ~Tnah Louise
sealing story birth journals
We will be creating sealing story birth journals. A sacred birth journal handcrafted by you with beautiful intentions may be a service that you offer to your mamas or something you gift them. Whatever you decide to do, we recommend that each one is made special and unique in some way, to reflect characteristics of each woman you are of service to as a Mother Roaster.
The sealing story birth journal will be something you create and bring to her. You will later write her birth story in it or give it to her to journal her birth in. It is a beautiful thing to provide a new mother the ‘beauty way’ space to write or narrate her sacred birth story.
*Project: create a sealing journal and write your birth story. If you are not a mother, ask your mother about your own birth, and scribe that instead. If that is not an option, create the birth journal and find a postpartum mama and ask her if you can practice with her.
Mother Roaster Note: Remember that when you do sealing stories for mamas, it’s very important to LISTEN deeply to each woman’s story, as if it were the VERY FIRST TIME you have ever heard a birth story. Even if you were AT HER BIRTH. Make sure that mama can feel your excitement through and through, and tell her and every woman, that you are honored to have heard her story and that she is AMAZING! For the journals, if you like this activity and want to make it a “SERVICE MENU ITEM” / you can have a series of created standard journals that you can add a picture of that woman’s baby to. This can be a gift or something you charge for. I like the idea of including it in a “sealing ceremony of services” / so she pays for a package and gets the journal as a part of it. We will talk about the various things that can go into your “sealing ceremony package” soon!
Postpartum Depression Defined
BABY BLUES by: Alyssa Berlin
If you just had a baby and find yourself feeling down, seemingly crying for no obvious reason or not quite yourself you are in good company. Often times, with this new baby comes some emotional upheaval as mom and dad are getting used to their respective new roles as parents. That wave of emotions can come in the more mild and common form of baby blues or can progress into symptoms of a full blown postpartum depression or anxiety disorder.
Baby Blues Approximately 85% of women will experience some signs of the baby blues within the first couple of weeks of a baby’s life. The blues usually start within the first 2-3 days following your baby’s birth and can last for a couple of weeks. Although it is normal and majority of women experience the blues, it is often confusing and unexpected for new moms. After all, the expectation is that “I should be happy, I just had a baby.”
Yes, having a baby is a joyous moment but it is also a magnanimous moment in a new family’s life and requires an emotional and physical adjustment. Give yourself the time to adjust to your new role and your new bundle. The blues have been related to hormonal fluctuations that happen after the birth. As such, in many cases, symptoms will resolve on their own as mom’s hormonal levels return to their original pre- pregnancy levels.
Signs and Symptoms of the Baby Blues: 1. Feeling down 2. Irritable 3. Tearful 4. Just not quite yourself 5. Mood fluctuations 6. Difficulty concentrating 7. Fatigue 8. Anxiety
In addition to the suggestions made above, Postpartum Depression requires a different level of care, including:
Professional Help : the sooner that treatment starts the sooner road to feeling better.
Medication : may be a very effective way to treat Postpartum Depression. Speak to a psychiatrist who is sensitive to where you are in terms of pregnancy, postpartum, nursing, etc. so he/she can come up with a treatment plan that is right for you.
Psychotherapy : both individual and relational therapy have been shown to be highly effective in treating Postpartum Depression.
No matter your experience, it is important to recognize that you did not choose to feel this way and that it is not your fault. You and your body have just been through a lot; pregnancy, labor, delivery, and the transition to parenthood to name a few. As such, you and your body may need time to catch up to all these massive life altering experiences. As mentioned above, while the baby blues will typically pass on its own, postpartum depression and anxiety really need the help and support of a professional in your area. So please reach out – you don’t have to go through this alone. Share with a friend or loved one how you are feeling, what you are thinking and what you may be needing. You will be glad you did.
Here is a way to mark a baby coming to the world with an ancient blessing passed down by generations of wise women. This one was gifted for us to use:
mark the baby’s forehead with blessed blue powder (you can use holi powder/ which you can acquire on amazon or create your own version)
mark the mother’s forehead with the same blessed blue powder
walk around the two of them to create a circle around them, and say, ‘may your days be happy and ever blessed’
then sweep any negative energy out of the room and then, right out the front door
you can leave her with a bundle of rosemary and motherwort flowers to hang by her bead or nursing chair
PROJECT: please create a blessing to share with us that you would use to infuse the blue holi powder and would say to mama and baby. Remember, to speak from your heart and share it with us!
What is a Tincture?
A “Tincture” is an alcohol extract of the medicinal qualities of an herb.
Tinctures are an extremely effective form of medicine.
They take effect very quickly within the body system.
Because of their strength, their potency needs to be respected.
The liquid in which we infuse the herbs is known as the
Most tinctures use a Menstruum that is 50% alcohol and
Many herbalists use 100 proof liquor store Vodka. If possible, choose and organic brand.
You can also purchase 190 proof organic grape alcohol which can be diluted with distilled water.
Should I be using fresh or dried herbs?
Fresh plants are almost always preferred for making tinctures.
The fresh plant retains more vitality, energy, resonance and plant spirit.
But fresh isn’t always available...
USUALLY, it is okay to use DRIED plant material in place of fresh, but because the dried plant matter can absorb so much liquid, adjustments need to be made in your recipe.
Fresh Herbs: * 1 oz by weight herb * 2-3 oz by volume alcohol
Dried Herbs: * 1 oz by weight herb * 5+ oz by volume alcohol, depending on the herb’s density
Herbal Project: Mother's Ease Tincture
Mothers Ease Tincture Recipe Known To Help Reduce Anxiety + Potentially Increase A New Mother’s Milk Supply
Supplies: • 2 parts Motherwort • 1 part Milky Oat Tops, fresh if possible, but not required • 7 parts alcohol. Or enough alcohol to fully cover plant material with about a 1/2 inch of clear liquid on top. 80-100 proof (50%) Alcohol (Organic if possible)
Process: • With Love, Gratitude and Intention, gather your supplies • Combine dried Motherwort, Milky Oat Tops and Alcohol in a glass mason jar • Shake well, infusing your medicine with consciousness and heart filled intentions • Cultivate your prayers for wholeness and balanced well-being for the mamas • Cover and label with the appropriate contents and date • If your plant matter absorbs all of your alcohol, simply add more, this is intuitive work • Store out of direct sunlight and allow to infuse for 6 weeks • Strain, reserve the liquid and compost the plant material • Allow the tincture to settle overnight • Decant and pour into dark amber bottles
This recipe was designed to address both the physical and emotional aspects a mother who has the baby blues or postpartum depression might suffer from. The same herbal recipe can be used as either a tea or as a tincture!
Supplies: • 2 parts Motherwort (mothers the mother, eases hormone shifts, non drowsy relief from tension) • 2 parts Passion Flower (calming effect, nervine, soothing) • 1 part Lemon Balm (great for easing transitions, calming, nervine) • 1 part Dandelion Root (high in iron) • 1 part Nettle Leaves (nutritive tonic, blood builder, tonic for hormone system) • 1 part Red Raspberry (uterine tonic, high in calcium)
Process: • Gather all of your herbs with love an intention • Measure out your herbs, you may choose measure your herbs by Tbs. You can use whatever measurement works for you, as long as it is consistent between measurements • Mix your herbs together with a wooden spoon or clean hands.
Tea: For tea, place heaping spoonful in mason jar, and fill with nearly boiling water. Allow to infuse for 1hour, and then strain and serve. NOTE: You may choose to add honey to sweeten.
Tincture: Place your herbs in a mason jar. Using the intuitive method of tincture making, pour 80-100 proof alcohol into jar until herbs are completely covered. Keep pouring until about 1⁄2 an inch of alcohol covers the top of the herbs. You may need to check your tincture in the morning and top off with more alcohol if much of it has been absorbed by plant material.
Storage: Store in cool dark place for 6 weeks. Approximately once a week give the jar a gentle swirl, and after six weeks strain liquid tincture from the plant material. Compost plant material. Allow liquid to sit covered in jar over night. Strain through fine cheesecloth and bottle!
Mother Roaster Note
A note about the language we use to explore healing services with our women:
* As a Mother Roaster, you are NOT serving as a medical professional. You are sharing the wisdom you have gained and are offering your loving, healing touch. * You are NOT being certified as an herbalist through Sacred Postpartum, we are only offering information on traditional practices used to restore body balance. * When discussing herbs, focus on the ways that the herb helps the body to MAINTAIN NORMAL BODY FUNCTION AND WELLNESS. * ACCEPTABLE Language when discussing herbs: ‘supports’, ‘promotes’, ‘health’, ‘tonic’, ‘occasional’, ‘maintain’ * Language to AVOID when discussing herbs ‘diagnose’, ‘evaluate’, ‘examine”, ‘treatment’, ‘prescription’, ‘cure’, ‘treat’, ‘relieve’, ‘prescribe’, ‘prescription’, ‘manipulation’ * Remember – these are the women we are SERVING * You may refer to them as clients, but they are NOT patients...you are their partner in the healing evolution of their soul’s journey into motherhood.
Have the women you serve sign a waiver, or an informed consent document, in which you clearly explain the extent of your training and the scope of what you are qualified to offer. At a minimum, include the following statement.
“These services are in no way intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any health related condition. All information provided is intended for educational purposes only. If you have concerns about your health, please consult a licensed medical professional.”
PRODUCT LABELING: These same rules apply to the labels on your products. Avoid words like “treat”, “cure” and “prevent” and include the following statement: “The FDA has not evaluated this herb for it’s safety and effectiveness. It is not intended to Diagnose, Treat, Cure or Prevent any health related disease or medical condition."
Mother Roasters Honor Women
Sell Mother Roasting Services, not individual tinctures.
You can sell your services as a Mother Roaster offering Postpartum Care and Warming Services. As a part of your SPP Care package, you can gift the women a tincture that you / she might mutually agree that she would want to try, in order to help restore the balance in her body. However, make sure not to say you are “treating” her or “prescribing” anything to her. Further, because there is alcohol content in your tinctures, each state has a unique policy on “selling” alcohol. Be aware of your own state laws in regard to selling tinctures, but as long as you are clear about your intentions, as offering education and guidance on restorative approaches to balancing the body, you should be fine.
In fact, I invite you think even further on this issue...we are not even recommending them, because we believe in the inner knowing of our women. By offering the knowledge, resources, wisdom and access, we invite each woman to step into her own wholeness and healing, but with a sister by their side. This is ultimately very empowering for her!
*Herbal Schools : If you want to become a “certified” herbalist, there are many schools out there and I encourage you to look into them, if this is your calling and you want to explore more ways of assisting women get back into balance.